Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Six Myths About Lawyers, or A Profession for a Psychopath

Traditionally, a lawyer is considered to be pessimistic and cynical. According to the popular explanation, this is due to the characteristics of the profession - its representatives must bear in mind the worst outcome of the matter and neglect the feelings of others for the sake of success, therefore pessimists and cynics are naturally easier in the profession. But it is not so.

Dan Bowling, managing director of Positive Workplace Solutions, a senior lecturer at Duke Law School and a freelance researcher at the University of Pennsylvania, together with renowned psychologist Martin Seligman from the same university, has been investigating the well-being of lawyers for years. Until recently, Bowling, like most, considered lawyers to be mostly unhappy: in 2010, an interview was published on the Careerist website, in which he even claimed that depression helps a lawyer to succeed. But if you looking for a job like a layer now, enhance your resume using legal job resume examples https://legaljobsearcher.com/resume-examples.

But now, after analyzing the results of an interview and a survey of more than a thousand lawyers and law students, he came to unexpected conclusions regarding the psychological portrait of the “average lawyer”. Upon closer inspection, the lawyers turned out to be completely normal people, at least for the most part. Maybe more resilient, which is to be expected, given the aggressive and rapidly changing environment in which they work.

Based on his work in recent years, Dan Bowling has formulated and refuted the six most popular myths about lawyers and the legal industry.

The first myth: lawyers are unhappy people. This is not so, for the most part, lawyers are quite happy with their life. A sense of well-being in the broad sense of the word is distributed among lawyers without noticeable deviations from the statistical picture in other professions. Moreover, novice law students on average feel more prosperous than the average American. Which is logical, given at least the cost of training.

The second myth: if the lawyer is depressed, this is only his problem. This is not quite so: in the legal industry in America, they are talking more and more about the problem of depression among lawyers experiencing a period of failure. In almost every law school, psychological assistance is now available, while Yale University even offers "therapeutic" dogs for exams. This is not a metaphor, it is about the placental mammals of the order of the carnivorous canine family, which many of us keep at home. But while there are not enough special courses of psychological stability, such as those that are increasingly used in the American army.

Myth three: students who are prone to caution and expect the worst receive better grades. The idea of ​​a direct connection between a pessimistic outlook on the world and prudence, on the one hand, and good grades from freshmen at law schools, on the other hand, was considered almost universally accepted. However, a study of character strengths by Bowling and Peggy Kerry from the University of Pennsylvania at two law schools (out of the top 50) did not reveal a statistical relationship between the presence of these personality traits and good grades.

Myth four: lawyer = cynic. It turned out that lawyers are more likely to be skeptics, and not to a greater extent than other well-educated people of other professions. Focus groups conducted in various regions, both in rural areas and in large cities, showed that lawyers consider critical thinking their strength, which is not at all equivalent to cynicism. Other Americans with higher education also value themselves.

Myth five: successful female lawyers are characterized by reduced emotionality and even heartlessness. Meanwhile, women lawyers themselves most likely attribute their success to their humanity. In a study last year by a group of particularly successful female lawyers by Patricia Snyder of the University of Pennsylvania, it became apparent that their ability to emotionally perceive, “read” people, and even empathy was an obvious element of their success.

Myth six, the last: emotional intelligence - the ability to understand and predict the emotional reactions of others - is generally estimated undeservedly highly. In fact, emotional intelligence becomes more important for a lawyer, the further he progresses in his career. Lawyers have a higher intelligence coefficient than the average person, but often they lack the ability to respond not only to the question being addressed, but also to the client. Recently, the situation has changed: more and more law firms, at least in America, have begun to take care of establishing not only purely professional, but also emotional relationships with clients - this helps to attract and then retain them.

Friday, October 4, 2019

Confessions of a Military Spouse | PCSing Overseas 5

Once winter hits I'm not gonna want to leave the house I'm actually thinking about picking up a new sport and that's something that I've been researching recently about sports in Alaska during the winter season. Because I definitely want to avoid getting depressed since. I own my own business. I am able to work from. Any location and I'm typically on my living room floor it's really easy for me to be at home but I don't want to create a bad habit of staying at home.

 I don't need to if. You guys have. Any questions about pcsing in general about military lifestyle. You guys want. Me to do another video talking about a specific subject just comment them down below I'd hope. That by sharing my experience. It will help. You guys transition as well. You guys like. This video be sure to give it a thumbs up and don't forget to subscribed to my channel so. That you guys can follow along. This journey wait before and I wanted to let.

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All those feelings of what do. I prepare I really wanted to share. This with you guys. Because it's so important to prepare ahead of time. You don't want to go to your next base not knowing what you're gonna do. Because then. You could fall into depression and that's the least thing that you want and trust. That first year is always going to be the hardest year after.

That it'll get better. I promise I really hope. You guys can hear. Me there's like. Someone doing like yard work outside sorry for the background noise so. Something that I'm gonna be doing when. I get to Alaska is focus on a specific subject to learn so. Something that I want to get better at is everything behind the scenes. It comes to business I've learned so much with owning my own business and I want to improve and get better at what I do and also reconnect with my fitness journey.

I feel like I've gotten to a comfortable place. It comes to training and I really want to challenge myself and I feel like. I get to Alaska I'm gonna have. More time it's gonna be a good place to meet new people to make friends. That like the same things.

That I do another thing that I've been considering because Sofia is gonna start commentary' yeah. This is so sad Sofia's gonna start elementary school guides uh getting emotional just thinking about it since Sofia is gonna start elementary I'm going to be alone and let's be honest that's the last place. I want to be alone at because. 

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It affect you financially. You also want to make sure. That you're good mentally and something that I did prior to moving to Japan was. I signed up for school and I picked up a hobby so. One of my hobbies was to get back into film and editing and that's why I started YouTube.

I reconnected with the love and passion. That I had for filming and editing and it's just been so amazing being able to help. All of you that may be watching that are moving to Yokota or moving to another base and that's essentially why I started. I wanted to share my experience here and hopefully help other military military families move here and also be able to connect with my family in a way. That isn't always possible sometimes and also.

We moved to Japan. I dedicated a lot of my time to training after having Sophia. It was a time in my life. You just dedicate so much to raising a child and making sure. That they're alive. Because let's be honest as a first-time parent that's all you care about just making making sure. You keep this tiny person alive and you forget about yourself sometimes and so. We got to Japan. I wanted to make sure. That I dedicated. More time to my health and my fitness and I immediately jumped into training for a bodybuilding competition. Now coming up to this big move to Alaska it's gonna be so different.

 I come from Texas Texas is hot and we don't have. Any mountains or anything and then. I move here to Japan it's like completely different city live mountains like so much more nothing I've ever seen before and now we're moving to Alaska. Where it's like the wilderness and negative 55 degrees which is insane to me that's probably the most scariest part.

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It is as a military family and living this nomadic lifestyle and it's all great. I love living this lifestyle but one of the things. That we have been stressing about has been a vehicle prior to moving to Japan. We sold our car and our motorcycle and we decided to buy a used car.

We arrived here and to be honest. They are really good really good used cars for really cheap prices compared to the states and now. That I'm moving to Alaska which is three times. More expensive the cost of living is way higher. Than I've ever known to be and we're looking at spending you know a good 20 grand on a used vehicle but it's absolutely necessary in a place like. That and it's a little bit stressful and overwhelming mainly. Because we're not ready to commit for something like.

That we've been discussing buying a new car but we're not necessarily sure. We want to I think living this nomadic lifestyle has really allowed. Us to be exposed to so much and we're just not ready to settle down and just thinking about making such a big payment to a vehicle. That we don't know. We want to keep forever is so stressful and also to be completely transparent.

I still have student loans. That I'm paying off thankfully we've been able to pay. Than half of them well we've been here in Japan but they're still big chunk. That I'm still trying to get out of debt and to think about getting a loan just to buy a vehicle and we don't really know what's after Alaska. What if we get Europe we're not gonna be able to take. That vehicle with. Us to Europe.

Because it wouldn't be allowed to drive. It so there's a lot of things. That we as a military family have to consider and whether or not. We want to live on base or off base. What are the benefits and the opportunities. That we have there. That said I want to talk to you guys about something that I do personally to get through. This whole moving process. Because not only does.

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hat's up guys welcome to the video. I wanted to open up with. You guys and chitchat about our military lifestyle and how it's affecting us right now and what are. Some things. That I'm doing to prepare for this big news mix sound started sit down get comfortable get. Some snacks. Because we're about to chit chat so it's gonna be a really chill chit chat with. Me talking about these upcoming changes so.

I wanted to open up about this. Because I feel like. I don't always share. Some of the struggles. That we go through as a military family and also. I don't feel like a lot of people open up about these types of situations and I know throughout the four years.

That I've been here on YouTube sharing my life. I constantly get messages about what I do to prepare for moves the cars the housing marriage kids so. Many questions from. You guys and I definitely do my best to respond and share with. You my personal experiences.

I wanted to sit down and talk about it mainly. Because I'm going through. It all over again flashback two and a half years ago. We first arrived at Yokota. It was definitely really hard there were. Some moments. It can get really tough and overwhelming and now.

That I'm getting ready to move to Alaska it's completely different from Japan it's completely different from Texas. Nothing that I know to be normal is in Alaska so. I wanted to just vent about some of the things. That lalo and I have been discussing in many people may not know how